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Walaupun perkahwinan pada masa kini perlu didaftarkan tetapi upacara dan kenduri perkahwinan penting untuk mengiktiraf perkahwinan. Mengikut kepercayaan mereka juga, pasangan yang berkahwin tanpa mengikut aturan adat dianggapkan tidak sah. Terdapat dua bentuk perkahwinan di kalangan orang Cina, iaitu pasangan dicari oleh ibu bapa atau saudara- mara, atau pasangan hidup yang dipilih sendiri. Cara pertama tidak begitu diamalkan sebab dianggap kolot. Namun, cara tersebut merupakan tradisi masyarakat Cina, kata mereka perkahwinan itu "arahan ibu bapa dan suruhan tukang risik". Sebelum zaman moden, perempuan tidak dibenarkan memilih pasangan untuk berkahwin.

Sebaliknya, keluarga pengantin perempuan memilih bakal suaminya. Perkahwinan dipilih berdasarkan keperluan untuk membiak dan nama baik keluarga, serta keperluan bapa dan suaminya. Cara kedua lebih praktikal kerana seseorang diberikan kebebasan untuk milih jodoh mereka sendiri. Ibu bapa biasanya akan menurut kehendak anak mereka zaman sekarang yang mementingkan kebebasan. Unsur paksaan tidak digalakkan dalam pemilihan kerana hal ini menafikan kematangan dan kemampuan anak mereka membuat keputusan. Namun begitu, segala upacara perkahwinan akan diatur olehibu bapa atau mereka yang lebih tua supaya segala pantang- larang tdak dilanggar.

Bagi kaum Cina adat dan upacara perkahwinan kekal sejak turun temurun lagi. Walaupun mempunyai sejarah yang lama serta banyak kawasan geografi yang berbeza, terdapat beberapa upacara amal pada umumnya yang secara am dikenali sebagai tiga askara dan enam etiket. Tidak terdapat banyak perubahan yang berlaku terhadap adat dan upacara perkahwinan kaum cina. Namun ada juga perubahan yang kita semua dapat lihat iaitu pakaian yang dipakai oleh pengantin ada sedikit perbezaan pengantin yang dahulu dengan pengantin pada zaman sekarang. Memang tidak dinafikan mungkin perkara ini terjadi adalah disebabkan oleh peredaran zaman yang menuntut kepada perubahan ini berlaku.

Namun adat dan cara perkahwinan tetap lagi sama dan tidak mempunyai sebarang perubahan yang ketara. Tiada satu had umur yang sesuai untuk seseorang itu berkahwinan. Semuanya bergantung kepada kesediaan dan kesanggupan individu untuk hidup berkeluarga .Keseluruhannya, orang Cina berkahwinan pada umur yang agak lewat kerana terpaksa mengumpul sejumlah wang yang banyak untuk mengadakan kenduri kahwin. Perkahwinan orang Cina dikatakan adalah yang termahal untuk menunjukan status dan kedudukan yang tinggi. .Di samping itu, upacara perkahwinan dibuat secara besar- besaran untuk 'memberi muka' kepada ibu bapa kedua belah pihak. Orang Cina menpunyai suatu perasaan untuk bersaingan menunjukan ego masing- masing melalui pemaparan kemewahan dan kekayaan. Mengikut adat orang Cina, perkahwinan anak lelaki sulung perlu dibuat dengan secepat mungkin. Jika tidak, ini akan memalukan dan merendahkan martabat keluarga serta mendatangkan umpat keji daripada saudara- mara.

Perkahwinan kaum cina tidak banyak bezanya dengan perkahwinan kaum melayu. Antara proses-proses yang terlibat dalam perkahwinan cina ialah adat merisik, meminang, adat bertunang, menghantar tanda, memberikan mas kahwin, berkahwin dan seterusnya upacara minum teh. Biasanya adat ini dilakukan oleh ibu bapa sebelah pihak lelaki atau saudara yang tua sebelah pihak lelaki. Rancangan mengatur upacara perkahwinan perlu dibuat dengan teliti dan memerlukan waktu yang lama, termasuk melihat hari yang sesuai. Keluarga kedua-dua pihak akan dimaklumi niat untuk berkahwin oleh anak- anak mereka. Selepas persetujuan diperoleh, barulah diatur pertemuan diantara keluarga sebelah pihak wanita dengan pihak lelaki.

Melalui temu ramah yang telah kami jalankan ke atas seorang tokoh sejarah dari kaum cina sendiri, beliau sendiri tidak nafikan bahawa perkahwinan kaum cina dengan kaum melayu tidak ada banyak perbezaan. Contoh yang beliau berikan ialah, bagi upacara minum teh ia di adakan adalah untuk merapatkan hubungan di antara kedua-dua belah pihak. Manakala bagi kaum melayu pula jamuan makan atau kenduri yang diadakan untuk tujuan yang sama.

Sebagai kesimpulan maka ingin kami tekankan di sini bahawa setiap perkahwinan yang melibatkan kaum yang berbeza adalah mempunyai adat atau cara mereka yang tersendiri. Kepercayaan atau adat yang di pegang adalah berpandukan kepada ajaran ataupun pegangan agama yang dianuti oleh setiap kaum tersebut. Jadi tidak hairan sekiranya terdapat pelbagai jenis atau adat perkahwinan pada masa sekarang. Rumah dihias bersempena meyambut hari bahagia (hari perkahwinan)

The variety of character in the book is vast; in Morgan we have an excellent, fiery, Welshman, of the stage type; the different minor miscreants are all vividly designed; the eccentric lady author may have had a real original; Miss Snapper has much vivacity as a wit; the French adventures in the army are, in their rude barbaric way, a forecast of Barry Lyndon's; and, generally, both Scott and Thackeray owe a good deal to Smollett in the way of suggestions. Smollett's extraordinary love of dilating on noisome smells and noisome sights, that intense affection for the physically nauseous, which he shared with Swift, is rather less marked in "Roderick" than in "Humphrey Clinker," and "The Adventures of an Atom." The scenes in the Marshalsea must have been familiar to Dickens. The terrible history of Miss Williams is Hogarth's Harlot's Progress done into unsparing prose. Smollett guides us at a brisk pace through the shady and brutal side of the eighteenth century; his vivacity is as unflagging as that of his disagreeable rattle of a hero. The passion usually understood as love is, to be sure, one of which he seems to have no conception; he regards a woman much as a greedy person might regard a sirloin of beef, or, at least, a plate of ortolans. At her marriage a bride is "dished up;" that is all.

Thus this "gay writing" no longer makes us gay. In reading "Peregrine Pickle" and "Humphrey Clinker," a man may find himself laughing aloud, but hardly in reading "Roderick Random." The fun is of the cruel primitive sort, arising merely from the contemplation of somebody's painful discomfiture. Bowling and Rattlin may be regarded with affectionate respect; but Roderick has only physical courage and vivacity to recommend him. Whether Smollett, in Flaubert's deliberate way, purposely abstained from moralising on the many scenes of physical distress which he painted; or whether he merely regarded them without emotion, has been debated. It seems more probable that he thought they carried their own moral. It is the most sympathetic touch in Roderick's character, that he writes thus of his miserable crew of slaves: "Our ship being freed from the disagreeable lading of negroes, TO WHOM INDEED I HAD BEEN A MISERABLE SLAVE SINCE OUR LEAVING THE COAST OF GUINEA, I began to enjoy myself." Smollett was a physician, and had the pitifulness of his profession; though we see how casually he makes Random touch on his own unwonted benevolence.

People had not begun to know the extent of their own brutality in the slave trade, but Smollett probably did know it. If a curious prophetic letter attributed to him, and published more than twenty years after his death, be genuine; he had the strongest opinions about this form of commercial enterprise. But he did not wear his heart on his sleeve, where he wore his irritable nervous system. It is probable enough that he felt for the victims of poverty, neglect, and oppression (despite his remarks on hospitals) as keenly as Dickens. We might regard his offensively ungrateful Roderick as a purely dramatic exhibition of a young man, if his other heroes were not as bad, or worse; if their few redeeming qualities were not stuck on in patches; and if he had omitted his remark about Roderick's "modest merit." On the other hand, the good side of Matthew Bramble seems to be drawn from Smollett's own character, and, if that be the case, he can have had little sympathy with his own humorous Barry Lyndons. Scott and Thackeray leaned to the favourable view: Smollett, his nervous system apart, was manly and kindly.

Authorizing the actions of others outside government, writes Swire, can prove challenging because of the gray areas surrounding how non-government employees can participate in government work. Case in point: the lack of clarity over whether the Federal Advisory Committee Act governs how outside programmers might be able to code on the government's behalf.

Swire has authored two complementary reports that dive deeper into the weeds on government 2.0: How to Buy Free Software: Procuring Web 2.0 Technology for the Federal Government and Six New Media Challenges: Legal and Policy Considerations for Federal Use of Web 2.0 Technology. Swire's full "It's Not the Campaign Anymore" report is available here. But if you'd rather listen than read, Science Progress's Andrew Plemmons Pratt has as 23-minute audio interview with Swire. And if even that takes up too much of your time, the 5-minute video above captures the kernel of Swire's work on the topic.

Know your strengths and weaknesses : "Oh come on! Stake through the heart. A little sunlight. It's like falling off a log" Buffy knew she rocked when it came to staking vampires, but trawling through books in the library for information was not her strong point, so Willow and Xander undertook this on most occasions. We are all blessed with certain strengths and weaknesses, and knowing these when it comes to freelancing can be the difference between being a successful freelancer and a struggling one.

Making your strengths your greatest asset is key, if you are great at interacting with people, make communication one of your key selling points. Equally if you know time management is one of your weaknesses, aim to improve it as much as possible. Being completely honest with yourself is essential here!

Interestingly, even as these maneuverings are edging their way to a climax in the coming weeks, Delhi just hosted an international conference titled "Peace and Stability in Afghanistan", which was attended by among others Lieutenant General David W Barno, who heads the National Defense University in Washington. Barno, an expert consultant on counter-insurgency, had a 19-month tour of Afghanistan from October 2003 commanding the US and Coalition Forces. It so happens Barno's tenure in Afghanistan was also the period the Northern Alliance "warlords" look back with nostalgia as their halcyon days in the power structure in Kabul.

The two-day conference in Delhi, which was addressed by top officials of the Indian foreign ministry and the Prime Minister's Office, ended on Wednesday. The Taliban struck at the Indian embassy in Kabul on Thursday. Maybe it is mere coincidence, maybe it is not. In the world of John le Carre's spymaster George Smiley, you can never tell.

If you're a designer and haven't already heard about Typographica's relaunched site and Favorite Typefaces of 2008 list, chances are you've been stranded on a desert island, far away from any relevant news sources. And even then, the list has received considerable attention beyond the usual design and typography blogs, getting mention in sources that wouldn't usually have much to say about type. With all that coverage already out there, what's left to say that hasn't already been mentioned? Stephen Coles has written and spoken about the history of Typographica and the reasons for its redesign; Joshua Lurie-Turell (Typographica's founder) has bestowed his blessing on the new site; and countless other sources have heralded, congratulated, and approved via blogs and Twitter updates.

An element of Typographica that I think deserves to be noted-and indeed has contibuted to the site's fine reputation-is how it is purely about type for type's sake… type for the joy of type. Consider the following, from a "font industry" point of view: Both Stephen Coles and Chris Hamamoto (the site's editor and designer, respectively) are employees of FontShop (a major font distributor). Knowing that, one might assume that the content is biased accordingly, that the opinions expressed are not objective. However, Typographica's vast archive is evidence to the contrary.

So, spending some time thinking is discouraged. We have to produce results NOW. Unfortunately (or fortunately?), the mind doesn't work that way. It needs to spend the time taking information in, and then it needs to be left alone to do the "pre-production" as we say in the music production world. Thus, it's not easy to set a project aside and wait until it is ready to be tackled (whether that's an hour away, a day, or more). That doesn't make it difficult, but it's not easy, either. Even as a guy who works from home and doesn't have to keep up appearances looking like a busy bee in the office, I feel guilty when I put the production work off and let some information settle into the empty vortex at the back of my skull (back where my brain used to be).

I can't offer a quick way to help you feel less guilty about doing this, unfortunately, because this is a part of the way you see the world and that makes it a mental adjustment that takes time. It's hard to get out of the negative feedback loop that the guilt of taking time to think causes while others think you're just procrastinating. Persevere, stick with it, and when you're estimating the time it'll take to complete something, factor it in. I'm still getting to that guilt-free stage myself.

This 1969 vision of a future household is remarkably prescient in some ways but unfortunately dated when it comes to gender roles: What the wife selects on her console will be paid for by the husband on his counterpart console.

The Internet in 1969

By 1993, AT&T were showing a more equally balanced vision of the future in AT&T 1993 "You Will" Ads. Given that those ads are a mere sixteen years old, it's hardly surprising that they're generally pretty accurate (although mobile phones are conspicuous by their absence). Paul Saffo said we routinely overestimate short-term change and underestimate long-term change, but it's those long-term predictions that are the most entertaining and fascinating.

Paleo Future is a blog by Matt Novak dedicated to A look into the future that never was. The archive is structured by decade, going back to the 1880s. The site is an orgasmofest of steampunk, retro-journalistic soothsaying and zeppelin-inspired musical theatre (calm down, Simon). Meanwhile, looking in the other direction of the light cone, why has it taken me so long to discover Near Future Laboratory? Julian Bleecker and friends seek out design and cultural trends, often viewed through the lens of science fiction (see, for example, Design Fiction Chronicles: The Stability of Food Futures).

In some ways, science fiction is the safe route to future prediction. Paul Saffo again: Wild cards sensitize us to surprise, and they push the edges of the cone out further. You can call weird imaginings a wild card and not be ridiculed. Science fiction is brilliant at this, and often predictive, because it plants idea bombs in teenagers which they make real 15 years later. The expectations set by science fiction result in the hipster chic of wearing a T-shirt emblazoned in Helvetica with where's my jetpack?

Ray Bradbury takes another tack: People ask me to predict the future, when all I want to do is prevent it. Better yet, build it. Predicting the future is much too easy, anyway. You look at the people around you, the street you stand on, the visible air you breathe, and predict more of the same. To hell with more. I want better.Science fiction doesn't just show us the future we hope for further down the light cone; it also shows us the design and culture we want to prevent.

I have new topics just bubbling around in my head to share with you. The one for today is: Would you consider an open marriage. I was reading a part of a bio from JujuMama. I will read almost anything even if I don't agree with it. So as I read her bio..she shared her story about how she made peace with the idea of her husband's choice and eventually hers. An open marriage ..well the road to this new type of relationship seemed bumpy almost not possible but her husband was very persistent. He had a soo much love that he wanted to share it with another as well with the promise that it would not take away from his love for her. Check out her story ..it's quite interesting..

So after reading that story I knew I had to find out what the men I knew felt about this subject. So I went deep undercover and began my research..One of my friends, we will call him 'T' for short. T was not even open to his wife flirting with other mens. Calm down ladies I am not saying that I agree or disagree with him. However, I was joking around with one of my male friends and so I thought he would be my test subject. Of course he has no idea that he is..shhhhs - Don't tell, okay.

Is it wrong to share your husband/wife with a secondary partner? Well I was honestly shocked that a man (member of the male species) would not like the idea of having sex with multiple women in the open. He stated that it would not be good to live this lifestyle with his wife knowing and he definitely would agree to his wife having a secondary partner. I had to know more so I push a little more. I wanted to know why not? I mean most married men have cheated at least once on their wife. He remarked that it wouldn't be the same if she(his wife) knew.

Well that was shocking but when I asked what if your wife wanted to embrace the lifestyle? Well that was a definite NO. NO. No…No. So ladies, if your going to marry a guy like this …You won't be able to have two men for if that's your flavor..Now if you have a personality that you have hidden from your girlfriend/boyfriend or fiance. Now's the time to discuss it with your partner before you solidify the arrangement. Most people have two personalities and some are hard to hide? Well it takes a long time to share all of yourself with anyone..Tell me your opinions about this topic? Talk2Me..This is Coyfee signing off…..